When Mr Right Doesn't Know That He Is Mr Right

You’ve got to love the feeling when after a seemingly endless drought; suddenly out of nowhere you meet one of those guys that literally make your jaw drop. Just one look at this masterpiece and you are hooked.

And it’s not just his stupidly amazing physique (oh my GOD!), gorgeous face or killer smile; it's also his charm, intelligence and humour that have you convinced that this is the man for you.

It’s all too easy to meet the ‘if only’ guys. You know, the ones that are perfect albeit one major oversight such as you’re not attracted to him, he lives too far away or his hygiene is questionable at best.

So when you meet that certain someone who ticks all your boxes and sends your heart racing, it’s pretty exciting.

What isn’t exciting is when he shows absolute zero interest. Impossible; you think. So you test the waters by suggestively gazing into his eyes only to be met with a blank stare. And still you try, as you invite him out for lunch and dinner and then as you think you are finally getting somewhere he proceeds to tell you about the current girls he is dating and how far he got with the last one. It is then that you realise that he’s complete indifferent towards you.

Disaster. Fucking disaster. What is his problem? Hasn’t he ever heard the saying, ‘try it, you might like it’? Obviously not.

Obviously this cocky bastard thinks he is too good for you. So what’s your best course of action when the guy of your dreams couldn’t care less about you? Well you can’t get nasty as such, it’s not his fault that he is completely clueless and has no taste in girls!

It’s best to get on with your life. But live bigger, live better and most importantly; be aloof.

Guys love a challenge and if you slowly slip away you will soon have him intrigued and wondering where your prior undivided attention has gone as he seeks you out.

This is where you should be using your anger at the situation as a catalyst to propel your goals into action. Screw him! Show him what he is missing. Embark on that healthy diet that will have you radiant and glowing. Get back into the soft sand runs that will show off your definition. Go shark diving and write that book you have put off for years.

Nothing is sexier than someone who has defined direction in their life and has the discipline to make their dreams a reality. It will make you feel confident, accomplished and allow you to stop incessantly daydreaming about the gorgeous man in question.

But when you take a break from your hectic schedule and decide to pop into the neighbourhood; by all means, make sure you look amazing! Tanned, toned and to die for. It won’t be long till he suggests going out for an innocent coffee. Your response? Apologise, smile and say how busy you are with your scuba diving course that weekend and how you just have sooo much on these days. Ha! That will show him.

It won’t be long before he is cocking up his eyebrow and contemplating his feelings as he begins to consider you as something else other than the dreaded ‘friend’ label.

But this is life and it is not a fairytale romance so there is also another reality – a far less attractive one that he still considers you as his mate and is wondering why you have been acting so strange lately.

In this scenario you just have to be glad that he has kick-started your motivation to finally give up eating wheels of camembert and justifying your actions by feigning a low calcium count. The time is ripe to enquire about his social circle; It’s most likely that he has some cute friends to ease the pain of your rejection!